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Tough Love

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Tough Love is an expression used when someone treats another person harshly or sternly because they love them, and want to help them be successful in the future. Being tough on those you love is difficult, but in our family it’s always been a normal part of raising our children.

I think we as parents all know how this works, although when you look at some of the parent and teen relationships today, I don’t think the “parents” get it!  Now don’t get me wrong, parenting kids today is alot more challenging than it was years before. But I think there are several factors that come into play.

1. Kids need 2 parents. I’m a firm believer in a traditional family, with 2 parents.  Amen for those single parents raising children, but having all the discipline responsibility on one parent is not easy. After a long hard day at work, choosing your battles sounds practical, but many times important battles are let go that need to be addressed. Our children are winning the battle, and parental disrespect is reeking havoc!

2. No consequences. Many parents have a great plan for discipline, but they don’t follow through, and there are no consequences. Watching our kids live through the consequence is what’s so tough for us as parents. We have to remember, it’s not about us. Consequences enable us to teach. When there’s no consequence, there’s no learning.

3. Authority. “Children today have no respect for authority.” You hear it time and time again, but it starts in the home. If children don’t respect and obey their parents, they’ll have no regard for authority outside of the home.

There are some tough lessons along the way, particularly when your trying to teach your adult children to be on their own, and take more responsibility for themselves. It’s hard to see them struggle, but it’s necessary. Think how difficult it must be for a Momma bird to watch her young bird learn how to fly. If he doesn’t fall, he won’t learn what it takes to fly, and if he doesn’t learn to fly quickly, he won’t survive.

I love my little birds, and I intend for them to soar!!

 

 

 

You have a teenage boy if . . .

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1. You can’t keep $10 bucks in your pocket anymore
2. Hanging out with friends consists of a controller, a computer monitor, and headphones
3. You use the privilege of social activities as a carrot to get chores done
4. Your underwear drawer is home to the Xbox controllers during the week
5. There are only 2 important questions, “can I take a nap” and “what is there to eat?”
6. You can no longer see the rug in the bedroom
7. You text in acronyms
8. Your kitchen counter is filled with protein and energy powders
9. 90% of the words that come out of your mouth have to be repeated daily
10. You use every opportunity possible as a teaching moment
11. You can’t shop in the mall together anymore
12. “Do I smell?” Is a common question
13. Studying for a test the day before is “ok”
14. An In n’ Out run at 10pm is considered a bonding moment
15. Lunch money for the week has tripled since Jr. high school
16. “It’s ok Mommy” means I’m over reacting
17. “Sleeping in” means getting up after 1pm
18. A large pizza only feeds one
19. Getting ready for school in the morning can be accomplished in 15 minutes
20. No one else in the house drinks milk, but you go through a gallon a week
21. Hanging up a towel is not possible
22. Deciding what you want to do for a living is an obsession
23. Nothing is more important than sleeping, eating and pooping
24. Girls are considered high maintenance right now