Tough Love is an expression used when someone treats another person harshly or sternly because they love them, and want to help them be successful in the future. Being tough on those you love is difficult, but in our family it’s always been a normal part of raising our children.
I think we as parents all know how this works, although when you look at some of the parent and teen relationships today, I don’t think the “parents” get it! Now don’t get me wrong, parenting kids today is alot more challenging than it was years before. But I think there are several factors that come into play.
1. Kids need 2 parents. I’m a firm believer in a traditional family, with 2 parents. Amen for those single parents raising children, but having all the discipline responsibility on one parent is not easy. After a long hard day at work, choosing your battles sounds practical, but many times important battles are let go that need to be addressed. Our children are winning the battle, and parental disrespect is reeking havoc!
2. No consequences. Many parents have a great plan for discipline, but they don’t follow through, and there are no consequences. Watching our kids live through the consequence is what’s so tough for us as parents. We have to remember, it’s not about us. Consequences enable us to teach. When there’s no consequence, there’s no learning.
3. Authority. “Children today have no respect for authority.” You hear it time and time again, but it starts in the home. If children don’t respect and obey their parents, they’ll have no regard for authority outside of the home.
There are some tough lessons along the way, particularly when your trying to teach your adult children to be on their own, and take more responsibility for themselves. It’s hard to see them struggle, but it’s necessary. Think how difficult it must be for a Momma bird to watch her young bird learn how to fly. If he doesn’t fall, he won’t learn what it takes to fly, and if he doesn’t learn to fly quickly, he won’t survive.
I love my little birds, and I intend for them to soar!!